I remember when Facebook was created, it was originally for college kids (those who had an edu email account). Eventually, it grew and more and more people started using Facebook on an every day basis regardless of age. Facebook became a website for people to create an online profile to connect with other people/network, communicate via messaging or video calling, and present themselves to others through their pictures, videos, likes, and posts. Facebook may not be a dating site, but it is a form of social network where people can post mostly anything they want, and present themselves however they want. Dating sites are similar in this aspect. People can create a profile that reflects their “ideal self” (Ellison, Heino, & Gibbs, 415). People are interested in creating this “ideal self” because they may not feel confident with their “true self”, and want to create this new profile to be what they hope/wish to be. “Goffman’s work on self-presentation explicates the ways in which an individual may engage in strategic activities ‘to convey an impression to others which it is in his interest to convey’”(Ellison, Heino, & Gibbs, 417). It has become important for people to try to impress others by their standards so they can feel whatever it is they want to feel (feelings: wanted, loved, cared about, attention, etc.).
The way we want to present ourselves online should have no “mistakes”. We want to make a perfect representation of our online profiles, and if we lie about it, we lie about it. These lies will probably have some consequences, but that doesn’t stop these sites from making these dating sites unavailable for anyone to create. In the show Parks and Recreation, Leslie Knope is trying to look for her soul mate through an online dating site. She puts in her information truthfully and she only gets one match, Tom Haverford. However, Tom had multiple profiles, and the one that no one responded to matched Leslie’s profile. People don’t usually put in their information truthfully, because they know that sometimes the truth isn’t always seen as attractive. The Look at Us reading stated, “In everyday life, people consciously and unconsciously work to define the way they are perceived, hoping to engender positive impressions of themselves” (p. 252). Being attracted to someone by his or her looks and/or personality is what helps them with the process to take a step forward.